I JUST HAD SEX

 

Something beautiful happens in this world (Akon! )
You don't know how to express yourself, so (And Lonely Island! )
You just gotta sing

I just had sex (Ay)
And it felt so good (Felt so good)
A woman let me put my penis inside of her (Her)
I just had se-ay-ee-ex
And I'll never go back (Never go back)
To the not-havin'-sex ways of the past

Have you ever had sex? I have, it felt great (Yeah)
It felt so good when I did it with my penis (Yeah)
A girl let me do it, it literally just happened
Having sex should make a nice man out the meanest

Never guess where I just came from, I had sex
If I had to describe the feelin', it was the best
When I had the sex, man, my penis felt great
And I called my parents right after I was done

Oh, hey, didn't see you there, guess what I just did?
Had sex, undressed, saw her boobies and the rest
(Was sure nice of her to let you do that thing)
Nice of any girl ever (Now sing)

I just had sex (Ay)
And it felt so good (Felt so good)
A woman let me put my penis inside of her (Her)
I wanna tell the world

To be honest, I'm surprised she even wanted me to do it
(Doesn't really make sense) But man, screw it
(I ain't one to argue with a good thing) She could be my wife!
(That good?) The best thirty seconds of my life

I'm so humbled by a girl's ability to let me do her
'Cause honestly, I'd have sex with a pile of manure
With that in mind, a soft, nice-smellin' girl's better
Plus she let me wear my chain and my turtleneck sweaters

So this one's dedicated to them girls
That let us flop around on top of them
If you're near or far, whether short or tall
We wanna thank you all for lettin' us fuck you

She kept lookin' at her watch (Doesn't matter, had sex! )
But I cried the whole time (Doesn't matter, had sex! )
I think she might've been a racist (Doesn't matter, had sex! )
She put a bag on my head (Still counts! )

I just had sex (Ay)
And my dreams came true (Dreams came true)
So if you had sex in the last thirty minutes
Then you qualified to sing with me

I just had se-e-ex (Everybody sing! )
And it felt so good (We all had sex! )
A woman let me put my penis inside of her
I just had se-ay-ee-ex (I just had sex)
And I'll never go back (Never go back)
To the not-havin'-sex ways of the past

oh man, you've gotta joking.  those bitches are such pussssies!  what the fuck is this bullshit?  who the fuck calls their mom after they have sex and talks about it?  why the hell is that pansy strutting out of a women's bathroom (at 0:56)!??

legit man, who cries during sex? check out this little bitch... why is he wearing a bathrobe and drinking coffee right after sex,  wouldn't you just want to lie there in your boxers instead? and this old geezer’s before and after...  are you telling me sex is good therapy and it's statisticaly proven that when you have sex, you WILL be happier?

"had sex undressed saw her boobies and the rest..." this man's confidence and security level is so down man, so down.  was he a fucking virgin?

this kid just had sex once and he's already talking about getting married. 

you're. kidding. me.

is this a friggin’ baby shower? CONGRATS ON THE SEX. with FROSTING.

and do tell me, what busy guy with a job and a LIFE has enough time to go get a pedicure and his hair done?

what the hell is this world coming to? 

HAVE GIRLS AND GUYS SWITCHED ROLES?

"I"dentity Politics and the Problem Therein

Defining Queer…

The Merriam-Webster Online dictionary provides the following definitions for the term “Queer;”

1 a: one that is queer; especially often disparaging: Homosexual, worthless, counterfeit –queer money-

  b: Questionable, suspicious

 2 a: differing in some odd way from what is usual or normal

The same source’s Thesaurus finds even more interesting labels.  Definitions from this include;

1 To be affected with nausea <eating all of that deep-fried food would make most people feel a little queer

2 To be different from the ordinary in a way that causes curiosity or suspicion <one competitor had a queer way of running that attracted a lot of attention from the spectators>

3 To be noticeably different from what is generally found or experienced <a lot of queer things started happening almost from the day that we moved into the house>

4 Having extreme or relentless concern <he's a little queer on the subject of astronomy; if you get him going, he'll talk for hours>

5 Being such in appearance only and made or manufactured with the intention of committing fraud queer money that was the work of a master forger>

6 Giving good reason for being doubted, questioned, or challenged queer business practices that bear some looking into>

Our quick online search immediately exposes the link between homosexuality and the negative presumptions regarding an alternate performance of gender that strays from that furthered by our heterosexist blind society.

Despite its derogatory meaning, within the academia, theorists such as Judith Butler  tackle those heterosexist assumptions that give the term “queer” its negative qualities and make it their own, coining Queer theory beside the already existing Gay and Lesbian studies. This move results from their certainty that adopting the belittling heterosexist insult of “queer” as their critical theory standpoint banner will disrupt the binary that powers the heterosexual mindset in its attempt to overpower homosexuality.

Where Feminism had failed to acknowledge the marginalized experience of lesbian women, gay and Lesbian studies emerged to mend the lack. Queer theory instead surfaces in response to the essentialization and identification with superimposed categories that the gay and lesbian studies entail. 

Queer theory has posed an interesting conflict in regards to identifying oneself with a particular identity.  This is because when a person identifies him/herself within a specific identity they are attaching to themselves any/all of the preconceived notions people might have in regards to that identity.  For example, to identify as a lesbian, a woman - in this case Judith Butler - as discussed in her clip posted above, "I'm lesbian I'm gay, but do I subsciribe to everything the lesbian and gay movement says?  Do I always come out as a lesbian/gay person first?... No... These are communities where one belongs and one does not belong"  And also as she discusses in her essay, "Imitation and Gender Insubordination" by identifying as a lesbian Judith would expose herself to her audience’s perception of what they believe a lesbian is; as if being a lesbian contributes to a person, certain attributes not found in say, a heterosexual female.  In the essay, “Imitation and Gender Insubordination,” Judith Butler examines identity politics and explains that to identify as something (gay, lesbian, male, female etc) is problematic when simultaneously rejecting identity politics.  On this level, Butler introduces the instability of identifying oneself as any sexual preference or gender. She says, “To install myself within the terms of an identity category would be to turn against the sexuality that the category purports to describe.” Meaning that to identify as a “lesbian” would be to turn against and oppress the very thing (being a lesbian) that the gay/lesbian community are trying to liberate. 

Not only is identifying oneself as a specific identity problematic in terms of identity politics and queer theory, but is problematic according to Lacan’s theory that a sexual identity cannot exist.  Lacan explains that the death drive is the only way to experience the “real” which is the closest a person can get to escaping the symbolic or as Ashley Sheldon stated, “You are no longer thinking about what you need to do, who you think you are, or even where you are.” Therefore a person can’t identify sexually as anything.  Butler’s argument is powerful and significant to queer theory because it disrupts the identity based theory and discourse that we have grown accustomed to in regards to gay and lesbian studies and challenges the very basis of mainstream gay and lesbian politics we historically understand. 

Binaries Schminaries...

Helene Cixous and Judith Butler are two smart ladies with gender on the brain. They fight for feminism with their tools belts heavily guarded with language and discourse originating from the poststructuralist point of view of Jacques Derrida.

Helene Cixous takes a (misread) Lacanian stance when reviewing her theory in Sorties. She explores the use of binaries in order to show the amount of unequal power that is used when discussing hierarchized oppositions. By doing this, language is coupled with one another in a given order: presence/absence, light/dark, speech/writing, and finally we are brought to the sexualized couple of man/woman. She takes man/woman and compares it particularly with active/passive. This is to say that men are active beings and women are passive beings. Now, although Cixous does not believe binaries to be a natural part of life, she does believe that the moment they are paired with one another a natural war begins between the positioning couples. To quotes her, she says, “Death is always at work”. What she means by this, is to point out the immediate inequality set out involving these hierarchies.

She further elaborates on the man/woman binary by explaining how the family construct works. When a mother and a father exists with children, the mother is either passive or she does not exist at all. Cixous calls this “unthinkable” however, it remains true within the phallocentric theory and a binary is then created between the father/son with no place for woman at all.

In Bodies that Matter Judith Butler discusses the roles gender performance without the deliberate use of binaries as Cixous does. Instead, Butler used a more fluid approach by explaining the concept of norms. The concept (or sign) of a girl, for example, is no more an “assignment” than it is a “command” and because of this command, it will forever be haunted by its own inability fully define itself. She also uses the example of drag as a way to highlight how these norms can be manipulated. Drag is not a lifestyle that is meant to bring down the heterosexual regime, however, it performs the very details of heterosexuality that are displayed.

Through the failing in able maintain the consistency in two main gender norms comes the iterative and predictable motions of homophobia. Homophobia is the discrimination of those males and females who do not fit in adequately under the gender norms of masculine and feminine. Therefore, a man under the pressure of homophobic judgment may be acting too feminine. If this is the case, he has also failed in correctly displaying his heterosexuality.

Science is a simulation

Essentially, this blog post should follow the expectations of the course instructor, in that a theory that is being studied should be implemented in a critical analysis of what Ken Rufo has said.  Already in trying to do that, the response elicits exactly what Baudrillard has postulated: critical theory produces its analyses as if they are self-fulfilling propheses.  Here is another way of looking at it: the soundness or validation of a theory is determined by its premises and the conclusion that necessarily follows.  When a theory proposes definitions for terms that explain and deconstruct the real world, it uses a logical form/structure in order to establish a truth.  Its conclusion that arises as a result of these special premises appears as a valid truth and is accepted by the reader.  The same process occurs when one decides to analyze or deconstruct a piece.  They follow the guidelines of the premises proposed by the argument, or the logical structure, acknowledging the traits of their reality’s terms to be on par with the traits of the terms in the original theory, and plug them in.  They’re already undergoing the process of self-fulfilling their awesome criticism: a valid conclusion that necessarily follows the premises based upon the theory’s definition.

To put it in a simpler explanation: you’re writing a research paper on a certain topic you choose.  You do all the research, acknowledging only the pro points that will make your argument strong.  You may bring up a point that has potential to discredit your argument, but that’s only for the reason that you refute the point within your argument to further demonstrate the credibility of your conclusion. 

This process is so similar, if not exact, to Ken Rufo’s explanation of Baudrillard’s critiques on Marxism and Lacanian theory.

“The point is that everyone keeps producing these systems of production, proliferating signs and truths and concepts, and yet doing so with the pretense of discovering what they are actually inventing.”

Given my example of the research paper, the argument you are trying to exemplify in it is your “truth” result.  You’re attempting to produce a truth as an answer to your research question.  This is where subjectivity comes in.  Guess what?  There is no truth.  You’ve created a truth result based upon your favored selection of evidence in order to prove your truth.  That’s not a truth to the messy and unpredictable real world.  That’s a freaking simulation, my friend.  Your English degree?  That curriculum is a simulation.  Your friend’s biochemistry work?  That stuff’s a simulation too.  I guess in my latter statement, I am also proposing that the friend has created his/her own reality through their work, which also has a grounded credibility/authority in society (i.e. science).  Are you telling me that our life in this society is a simulation because science has the ultimate truth?  Maybe.  I am also proposing that science work undergoes Baudrillard’s stages of simulation, with it’s current state being the fourth in that it no longer needs a model, and now acts as THE model.

The Chief Shaman of the Paranoid School of American Fiction

 Adam Begley interviewed Don DeLillo, an American novelist most closely associated with the postmodern movement, for The Paris Review in the early 1990s.  The interview is prefaced by a brief compendium of DeLillo's life and work.  In it, Begley attempts to paint a picture of DeLillo, beginning with his own observations of DeLillo's rigourosly observant demeanor, which he concludes is commonly mistaken for some form of paranoia, and then backtracking to his chldhood as the son of Italian imigrants, and finally delving into his work in literature.  DeLillo's work stretches from the 1970s to present time and consists of full length novels, short stories, and the occasional essay.  The interview itself is not anything out of the ordinary.  Begley's questions clearly attempt to illustrate the connection between the author and the work.

The first question Begley asks DeLillo is "Do you have any idea what made you a writer?"  He follows them up with possible reasons, posed as questions, for why DeLillo became a writer: "Did you read as a child? As a teenager?"  It seems he's trying to illusrate that writers are formulated to be writers starting at a young age or that there is something that differentiates writers from other men and women, which DeLillo inadvertently sabotages by confessing to not reading much as a kid and not having much direction.  Begley then asks, "Does the fact that you grew up in an Italian-American household translate in some way, does it show up in the novels you’ve published?"  The assumption that this question represents is that the author is "an indefinite source of significations that fill a work" (Foucault 252).  Begley does this more specifically with a few of DeLillo's major novels.  He says of Americana, DeLillo's first novel, "What got you started on Americana?  He continues, "How do you begin? What are the raw materials of a story?"  About a later book, Begley asks, "We talked a little about Americana. Tell me about your second novel—what was your idea for the shape of End Zone?"  All of these questions, firstly, present the author as being both the creator that came before the work and present in the work, an idea that Foucault rips apart and instead claims that the author "performs a certain role with regard to narrative discourse, assuring a classificatory function"  (Foucault 243).

DeLillo's rsponse to some of Begley's questions are equally interesting.  After Begley asks, "How do you begin? What are the raw materials of a story?"  DeLillo says, "The basic work is built around the sentence. This is what I mean when I call myself a writer. I construct sentences. There’s a rhythm I hear that drives me through a sentence. And the words typed on the white page have a sculptural quality. They form odd correspondences. They match up not just through meaning but through sound and look."   It's interesting that DeLillo pinpoints a reason for why he is a writer, or better yet a definition for a writer.  I would like to mention here that the word writer is used throughout the interview, not the word author.  However, I do think that in this context they are talking about DeLillo as an author, and that here the word writer takes on that meaning.  But anyway, DeLillo says that he is a writer because he constructs sentences.  I think this is diectly related to Foucault's point about only certain discourses being bestowed with the author function.  DeLillo thinks he is a writer becaue he constructs sentences.  Do not people who write letters, homework assignments, etc constuct sentences?  These discourses, however, do not require the author function.

Early on in the interview, Begley poses a question about the drafts of DeLillo's work.  He says, "Do your typed drafts just pile up and sit around?"  DeLillo's response is, "That’s right. I want those pages nearby because there’s always a chance I’ll have to refer to something that’s scrawled at the bottom of a sheet of paper somewhere. Discarded pages mark the physical dimensions of a writer’s labor... The first draft of Libra sits in ten manuscript boxes. I like knowing it’s in the house. I feel connected to it. It’s the complete book, the full experience containable on paper."  I think this question corresponds to Foucault's question of What is a work?  In DeLillo's response he seems to ellude to some special significance in the trial and error of a writer.  He refers to the complete work of his novel, Libra, as being in ten manuscript boxes, explaining that the full experience lays there in those pages.  However, Foucault expresses confusion over what qualifies as a work.  Clearly only the finished manuscript of Libra was published, but what about the drafts left behind?  What about the scribbles that DeLillo says he often refers back to?

Throughout most of the interview, Begley's questions really attempt to portray DeLillo as a unique individual, and more imporantly a privileged individual.  Begley poses many questions and statements that aim to differentiate DeLillo from other writers.  For example, he says of DeLillo's writing style, "Your dialogue is different from other people’s dialogue."  This attempt at separating DeLillo from other writers, coupled with the fact that the interview is published in the Paris Review, presents DeLillo as having high cultural status.

It's interesting that the interview attempts to draw a very distinct connection between DeLillo and his work, pointing to DeLillo, the author, as the origin of meaning, when in fact Foucault sees the author as a function of discourse that serves to limit meaning.

The structure of Personality and Language; Freudian theory of personality and Lacanian Linguistics.

An overview of freudian theory

Sigmund Freud began publishing his works towards the end of the 1800s shocking both the academic and clinical settings of the Victorian city of Vienna. Freud in fact advanced a developmental model of the structure of personality, consisting of a tripartite system in which human consciousness “the surface of our mind” stands as a marginalized and inaccurate representation of who we really are. Freud in fact presented individuals as possessing three composite layers that interact with one another to form our character; the Id, the Super Ego and the Ego.

The Id, perhaps the most important structure within this system, derives its power from biological and instinctual forces that according to Freud rule our thoughts and feelings from deep within. The id acts according to the Pleasure Principle; it seeks to have his needs satisfied. Comparable to a two year old child who lacks the teachings of socialization, the Id never takes “No” for an answer and acts out in despair when his cravings are not met.

The Super-Ego instead, develops around age five, as children become more and more exposed to the moral and ethical restrains that our family first, and then our society imposed upon us. The Super Ego values societal norms above all. It provides individuals a set of necessary imperatives that must be followed in order to become model citizens whatever our role might be in society. Confronted with the passions and impulses that spring from the Id, the Super Ego floods the Ego with anxiety and rebukes those instinctual thoughtscondemning their existence within the person.                              

The Ego, hit with contradicting messages from opposite directions assumes the role of mediator, negotiating between the two other layers of personality. The Ego acts according to the Reality principle regulating the pressure put forth by the Id transforming its satisfaction into a form of behavior condoned and accepted by the Super Ego.

According to Freud individuals are most healthy when the Ego is in charge. An overdeveloped Id or an overactive Super Ego can bring about those psychopathologies that Freud believes may be extinguished through the use of Psychanalysis.

 Lacan, a psychoanalyst himself, appears to have begun his own explorations of the human psyche going about the process form a Linguists perspective.  

As Ashley Shelden mentions in her blog post, Desire stands as an essential element not only for Freudian theory but also for Lacan’s understanding of human existence. Lacan in fact, exposes the connection between the system of Language (with its infinite pursuit of meaning) and human life (during which individuals strive for an unachievable Identity.) Both conditions result from the impossibility for humans to exist outside of the restrictive system of language and hence share an indefinite search for the inexistent center.

In Freudian theory also, desire plays a central role, as according to psychoanalysis human behaviors and consequently their existence as well is determined by irrational biological motivators that can only be censured by one’s Ego because deemed to be horrifying by societal conventions (and the Super Ego.)

In this connection I believe that, the Freudian Theory of Personality overlaps the Lacanian view of human existence that can be described as residing with the realms of the Symbolic, the Imaginary and the Real.

Accordig to Lacan in fact, human beings live embedded within the Symbolic world, outside of which there is nothing that we can understand as we are a product of that same language that shapes and creates our world. Yet, perhaps unconciously, we can sense the presence of the Real, that which cannot be represented and yet more closely resembles our memory of being a “body in bits and pieces.” First  experiecened as infants, then as toddlers this moment precedes what Lacan calls the “Mirror Stage” which instilled within us a desire for an illusory identity promised by our reflection of an Image. This Image, or idea of one’s own idenity exists only within the realm of the Imaginary.

Both unachiavable realms, the Imaginary and the Real, can be compared to the Id and Super Ego which  are also hidden underneath the executive Ego that dominates and constrains our personality’s behavior.

Perhaps Freud’s understanding of psychopathologies can shine some light on our everpresent desire to abandon the Symbolic world and live by our Ids, forgetting the superimposed image of the Imaginary realm that our Super Ego deceptively tells us must be pursued.  

Derrida and I are in love....

It is clear that Derrida stands in complete opposition to the documentary process by pointing out the various degrees of falseness behind the film. At one point a man speaking to Derrida says, for Americans, being filmed is a natural condition as they measure their existence by the amount of time they are watched on and off the lens. Derrida refutes this claim with the belief that the person or persons behind (and in control of) the filming process is essentially authoring a fictitious tale of a real life. Therefore, any existence one might have through a filming process is ultimately a false one and not their own.

An example of this falseness can be seen during moments in the documentary, when techno music is thumping behind Derrida’s slow moving body as he casually walks down the street. What is more interesting is that during this dramatic scenario, we also recieve a string of disheartening dialogue in a monotone voice that almost sounds emotionless, however, we are meant to feel the uplifting sensation of enlightenment through solidarity. Derrida is a real person! Who has had real experiences! He has argued with his parents and has gotten sick! He has been scared and has had dreams! He has lived as we have and, yet, according this this film, he is not as we are, because sprinkled throughout this cohesion of common ground there are instances of absolute foreignness that we cannot relate to (e.g. receiving a call from Heidegger, being asked to act in a movie, etc.). This entire scene uses the art of conflict in order to reach the audience in their attempt to display Derrida’s “conflicted” image.

In the documentary there are a few other examples that effectively display Derrida’s struggle in the interviewing process. As this struggle is coming from a disconnect between Derrida and the interviewer, it is extremely interesting to see the result of the process through the struggle. For example, when the interviewer is attempting to pry information from Derrida and his wife, we (as a gossipy western civilization that is used to 24-hour pop culture coverage) sit on the edge of our seats and wait for the juicy details that led this infamous philosopher and the heroine of his life to come together. But they give us nothing. They met, they fell in love, and they are together. That is all. You can practically feel an entire world of Derrida fans slouch back in their chairs full of disappointment while he sits there grinning, “Oh well”.

There is a second moment, however, when Derrida speaks of love in another frustrated manner with his interviewer. Once again there is moment of disconnect and Derrida is left to his wits. The interviewer plainly asks him of love and Derrida does not know where to start, but what he says is exceptionally clarifying to such an open ended question. He speaks of the “who” and the “what”. When someone is within the act of love, whether it be falling in love, falling out of love, or confused within the dynamics of love, the main dilemma always stands to be, the who or the what? Are you in love with that person as who they are? Or is it the individual qualities that attract you to them (e.g. beauty, intelligence, humor, etc.). Although love almost always starts with seduction and lust, love is always weeded out by “what” we don’t want as well. If the other person does not meet our standards by the qualities they don’t have, then we also reserve the right to say they do not deserve our love.

Although I would like to say that I completely understand what Derrida is saying by the who and the what, I cannot say that I do. In fact, if I had to choose with what made more sense, it would be the “what” only because I feel that the “who” closely relates to what liberal humanism calls “essence”. When essence comes to mind, permanent comes to mind. Essence is the essentialness of who you are. I feel that I am misunderstanding Derrida when he says you can love a person for who they are only because I am contrasting it to his “what” definition while simultaneously defining it against “essence”. Any help on the matter would be appreciated.

Another image we are being exposed to in this film is a deceased one. Unfortunately, Jacques Derrida passed away October 8^th, 2004. The man see walking around the cluttered corners of his home, is no longer walking around anywhere. He is no longer. With this in mind, the perception of image takes a deeper plunge into the dark mentions of death and how we live and correspond to it as ongoing beings. For most, the thought of death is fearful, not only for ourselves but for others. Derrida reinstated the point of “always already” by talking about cemeteries when discussing death. The fact that we are fearful, and that we will go and contemplate the location of our burial site before the time of our death proves that we are already thinking about it. From the time we are born, we are meant to fear death and from the time we are mature enough to take care of ourselves, we are meant to prevent death. It is buried in our mind to always be thinking about it, but to already prepared.

Scritti Politti- Jaques Derrida

I'm in love with a Jacques Derrida

Read a page and know what I need to

Take apart my baby's heart

I'm in love

I'm in love with a Jacques Derrida

Read a page and know what I need to

Take apart my baby's heart

I'm in love

This song is playing with Derrida’s stance on deconstructionism. While the lyrics state “Read a page and know what I need to take apart my baby’s heart,” the song is literally insinuating that after reading a page of Derrida’s work, the singer is endowed with enough knowledge to study the center of a structure (in this case, his or her baby/ love) in order to understand how they work. After doing so, not only do they realize they are in love, but they are in love with Jacques Derrida. Whether this is in appreciation or infatuation, I do not know.